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Killing Kittens Sex Parties Hits MCR

David Blake speaks with the Manchester branch of the 'exclusive orgies'

Written by . Published on January 27th 2014.


Killing Kittens Sex Parties Hits MCR
 

NAKED and oily seems as good a time as any to discuss the arrival of a new elite sex club in Manchester.

"Maybe around three-quarters get involved in sexual activity. But then it could end up with just me and the security guy wearing clothes and everybody is naked. Each party takes on its own form."

“Have you heard of Killing Kittens?” asked my chum and masseuse as she thumbed out one of four hundred conker-sized back knots.

“Is that some kind of neo-Punk anti-Putinist Russian feminist protest rock band?” I asked, biting down on the pillow like a handsome new inmate.

“It’s an exclusive sex party,” she replied, “it’s just come up to Manchester.”

Interest piqued.

Images of a sex party usually involve tubby bus drivers and their equally tubby housewives who are very bored of one another (but daring not to admit it because they’d have to split the TV, fridge and cat) so seek sweaty solace with some equally uncomely couple in a car park just off the A58 near Rochdale.

Killing Kittens wants to change that preconception.

 

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The naked truth of Killing Kittens is this: Firstly, it’s an 'exclusive orgy'. Secondly, it’s all about the women (the girls make the rules and approach the guys). Thirdly, it’s just touched down in Manchester.

Launched in 2005, Killing Kittens now has over 35,000 members in the UK and has been featured in GQ, Mail Online, Glamour, The Times, Esquire, Playboy… the list goes on.

Sex has always been big business. Sex sells. It always has and it always will. Killing Kittens are repackaging the sex and selling it back to us (not like that) wearing a bow-tie, stockings and cradling a flute of Bolly.

We pinned down the Manchester arm of Killing Kittens, Jordie (real name Nat), to pull that kitten firmly out of the bag:

So tell us about KK?

It’s not a new brand, the parties have been taking place since 2005, but it is new to Manchester. It’s an exclusive sex party and all about the girls. We create an environment in which the ladies can go and express their sexuality in a totally safe environment. We’ve got rules and etiquette so that everyone feels safe and comfortable.

You've just thrown your first Manchester bash. Success?

Huge success. Since that first one my phone and email have not stopped. We’ve had great feedback and interest is booming. We’re more or less sold out for the event on Friday 7 February. It's going to be a monthly thing and we’re looking to branch out into Leeds, Liverpool and up to Scotland. We've also launched in Dublin and Brighton. Then it's world domination.

Before this you'd have to travel to London for a Killing Kittens party. We’ve got 35,000 members in the UK and 8000 alone around Manchester and Leeds. I became friends with the founder, Emma Sayle, at a London party and told her it was about time the party headed up here.

KK JordieKK JordieWho’s invited?

We have all different types, but attendees are typically aged 19-45. Only couples or single girls can come along. You don’t have to be in a couple, you can just be male and female friends that want to try it out. 

Do you have to be beautiful, rich, slim and successful?

Not at all. I’ve had doctors and solicitors to builders and shop workers. We won’t discriminate because of your job. Not everyone that comes has to be buff or super slim. But our parties do tend to be full of beautiful people in beautiful venues.

So you check how someone looks before they’re allowed to come?

We do vet online applications yes. We'll look at your photo to see if you fit the bill. We don’t want just anybody to be able to turn up.

Any famous faces?

We’ve had quite a few famous people at the London parties yeah. Of course, it's strictly confidential but Luisa Zissman (currently on Celebrity Big Brother) has been very vocal about attending our parties.

Tell us how it works?

Firstly, you’ll sign up on the website. We’ll check your profile and your photo and if everything is OK you’ll be free to sign up for the parties.

You’ll arrive in a couple or as a single girl wearing masks, the masks can come off once you’re inside, or stay on, whatever you prefer. We’ll check you against the guestlist at the door and show you on through to the party. Get yourself a drink and go from there, you might want to ease yourself in to it with a few drinks, talk to other couples, some get straight down to it. The girls always approach the guys, not the other way around.

People attend for a whole load of reasons. Some want to fulfil sexual fantasies, spice things up, try out different partners, have people watch or watch others themselves. Some just want to see what all the fuss is about.

The important thing is, you go as far as you want to. Some just come along, have a few drinks and watch. That's what they're in to and that's fine. It’s all up to the individual.

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So you don’t have to participate?

You don’t have to do anything sexual if you don’t want to. Like I say, some just like to get dressed up, have a few drinks and watch others. Some like to be watched. I repeat, how far you go is completely up to you. You’re not expected to do anything. It may take you a couple of parties to warm-up to the idea of having sex, others dive straight in. But there’s no pressure.

How many do get involved?

Maybe around three quartes get involved in sexual activity. But then it could end up with just me and the security guy wearing clothes and everybody is naked. Each party takes on its own form.

The ladies pull the stringsThe ladies pull the stringsIs there a dress code?

Mainly suits and cocktail dresses. But if we’re doing a theme then it’s whatever is easiest to get out off. In London we have the hedonist parties in a Turkish baths with saunas and huge jacuzzis.

The Manchester party in February has a glitter theme. I’m really interested in doing a toga party next. I like the idea of a Roman orgy.

Where do the parties take place?

Penthouses, high-end hotels, manor houses. All gorgeous venues full of gorgeous people. I’ve been looking around venues in Manchester and Cheshire all day today actually. Big country houses and hotels, but there’s utter confidentiality so I can’t tell you where. Attendees only find out where the venue is 24 hours before the event.

How much does it cost?

It can depend per venue but in Manchester it’s £40 for a single lady and £100 for a couple. That includes free champagne for the first hour. Initial sing-up online is free.

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How safe is it?

There’s condoms absolutely everywhere you go. That’s a priority. We’re all about safe sex. There's strictly no camera phones or photos of any kind. In terms of security we don’t have in-your-face bouncers. What we do have is inconspicuous people at the party that will keep an eye on proceedings, monitor behaviour, making sure people aren’t too drunk or being inappropriate. We've never had any trouble. But it’s there for your peace of mind.

Do you get many single women?

More than you think. It is mostly couples but there’s more and more single girls coming along. A lot of them come to join in with other couples.

Not every couple that comes along is in a relationship, even if they are they might both want to have sex with other people. So it’s not hard for single girls to find what they’re looking for. Some are naturally quite nervous at first. But it's such a cool, safe and comfortable environment that they soon loosen up. I've met with a number of single girls just for a coffee or a drink so that they know a face when they first get there.

How many parties have you been to?

I’ve only organised the one just gone in Manchester, but I’ve participated in quite a few in London. I oversee at the Manchester parties, I don’t participate. I still go to the London parties.

How did you first get into it?

It was an ex-partner's friend that told us. It sounded fun and unique. The appeal for me was how unsleazy the whole thing is. It’s a sex party but you don’t really feel like you’re in a sex party. That sounds odd but it doesn't feel as you'd expect it to. I’ve had amazing nights going to these things, so we’re trying to throw away the stigma attached to sex parties.

What would you say to those unsure about coming along?

We’ve got so many wanting to come anyway that it doesn't really matter to us. They sell out very, very quickly. There are limited spaces, 8000 members around here with a party of only 100-200 places. Of course they sell out quickly.

A sudden wave of mischief washes across Nat's face, "You should come along and check us out," she says.

For the sake of thorough, hard-hitting investigative writing and credibility, I just might do that. More to follow...

Killing Kittens founder, Emma SayleKilling Kittens founder, Emma Sayle 

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Find out more about Killing Kittens here.

Twitter: @killing_kittens TwitterMCR: @KKJordie

The next Manchester party is Friday 7 February. Email info@killingkittens.com or visit them on facebook here.

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61 comments so far, continue the conversation, write a comment.

Prince_HarmingJanuary 27th 2014.

Putting aside how this is an advertisement masquerading as a news article, does ManCon not think it might be worth including a NSFW (Not Safe For Work) notice at the top of the page, to avoid office workers city-wide suddenly displaying a pair of tits on their monitor? Poor show, for an internet-based company.

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JordieJanuary 27th 2014.

the title of the link that states 'sex parties' kinda gives it away that its for adults only don't you think??

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David BlakeJanuary 27th 2014.

Prince, now added little golden tassles so as not to offend those with more reserved sensibilities. Thanks.

Prince_HarmingJanuary 27th 2014.

I'm a huge fan of boobs and indeed nudity in general, but I wouldn't want someone being pulled up on a disciplinary at work for having them splashed across their screen. And no, Jordie, whilst the the subject matter is obviously going to be adult given the title, that still doesn't tell people that their will be nudity in the article.

tierneychickJanuary 27th 2014.

The link within the email didn't state sex parties, it's only once the article opens up...

JordieJanuary 27th 2014.

maybe these naughty people shouldn't be reading Manchester Confidential in work time then? Although these naughty people are the types we want at our parties ;-) ha x

EditorialJanuary 27th 2014.

And it wasn't an advert

JordieJanuary 27th 2014.

Great article David! Thank you and we look forward to seeing you at one of our future parties ;-) xx

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DavidJanuary 27th 2014.

If you charge £40 for single ladies and £100 for couples your extremely sexist in your pricing.Also what if men are in a couple but with another man?.Are they going to be welcome ?

DavidJanuary 27th 2014.

Will Manchester Confidential be sending Mr Schofield or Gordo to review this event?

Poster BoyJanuary 28th 2014.

Gordo will be salivating at the prospect of who to take as his 'wingman'...

AnonymousJanuary 28th 2014.

Confused by this. If it's 'all about the women' isn't the maths wrong?

PiemanJanuary 28th 2014.

I'm from Wigan, where are the fat bus man type sex parties?!

Prince_HarmingJanuary 28th 2014.

Are gay men and bisexual people welcome at these events, just out of curiosity?

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JordieJanuary 28th 2014.

We do get bisexual women at our events yes Prince. We will be launching a high end gay equivalent in the summer specifically for gay guys. x

Prince_HarmingJanuary 28th 2014.

I'm afraid that doesn't answer my question. Are bisexual men or gay men welcome at this event?

DavidJanuary 28th 2014.

It seems the impression is being given that the male voyeurs who attend such parties are happy to watch two woman having sex together they are not so liberal about watching two men having sex together.

Prince_HarmingJanuary 28th 2014.

Yeah I was thinking the same myself. I would be interested to know how a guy would be treated were he to start playing with another guy, consensually, in this club. Would they be asked to leave?

JordieJanuary 28th 2014.

Sorry for the late reply guys. Like iv said in my interview, KK parties are all about the women so bisexual men can come along with a woman as long as they are wanting to get it on with a woman or there to watch. These parties have been going on for 8 years now this isn't a new concept we have just thought up for Manchester.

Le SighJanuary 28th 2014.

So bisexual men are welcome, as long as they promise to act straight, but bi women are welcome to get it on with whomever they choose? I like that you point out that this swingers club has been going for eight years, because the hideous sexism and outdated feeling, coupled with a little splash of homophobia, really does harken back to a bygone era. This seedy nonsense belongs in the back pages of contact magazines and obscure chat rooms, not on the pages of a lifestyle magazine.

JordieJanuary 28th 2014.

Please do not accuse us of being homophobic! We are planning future parties for gay guys, we just don't cater for them at the moment. This is a party aimed at women NOT men. You're entitled to your opinion on these parties and no one is forcing anyone to come along to them. I refuse to get in to a keyboard war about any matter regarding our parties. Take care J x

DavidJanuary 28th 2014.

It seems that you are saying that woman don't mind watching two gay women having sex but do mind watching two men having sex?. Is it really all about the women as you want to claim or is it really about the men?This is all about catering to a certain type of mens fantasy which does not involve gay men.We can say that because in effect you are charging men as couples £100 to attend,much more than the charge for women.Perhaps you should invite Dominique Strauss Kahn as a special guest.

Le SighJanuary 28th 2014.

Making it clear that gay and Bi men are unwelcome is homophobic, regardless of whether you like the label or not. The commenter above is absolutely right when he says your claim to cater to women is nonsense. The older, monied straight men don't want to see anything as icky as a man going down on another man so it's not allowed, even if you can't bring yourself to say the actual words. It's not just seedy as hell, it's mysoginistic and transparently exploitative as well.

AnonymousJanuary 28th 2014.

"Beautiful people.....looks...fitting the bill....not just any old person...." Oh, please do f**k off.

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The PointJanuary 28th 2014.

I thing to f**k is the point. Off and on.

Richard HJJanuary 28th 2014.

As an aside wouldn't Stiff Kittens would be a better name for the Manchester branch. Bet you a penny to a pound that most of the paying men look like Phil Mitchell and are sitting in the corner with a gently withering hard-on waiting for the girl in the Killing Kittens adverts to appear. Oddly she never does. She's currently on another photo shoot for Thomson Holidays in Spain. Finally, what do these wonderfully glamorous people for an encore? None of this is real is it?

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Jonathan SchofieldJanuary 28th 2014.

I love the existential breakdown at the end of this rant Richard

Richard HJJanuary 28th 2014.

It was a conceptual rant replicating the arc of the act of sexual congress. Pleased you noticed. Anyone fancy spooning?

Charlie ButterworthJanuary 28th 2014.

I'm thinking of setting up a club where behind heavy security each Wednesday people dressed formally can bark at each other. It'll be mainly for men although women can join in. I'm thinking of calling it The House of Commons.

BlerghJanuary 28th 2014.

I think lots of women would find the name off-putting. I mean, I love cats. What about 'petting kittens'? And anyway, there's already a low-key comedy club called Dead Cat in this neck of the woods. So, they've pretty much got the market cornered in animal-abuse brand names. Just saying that your gross sex club needs a better name.

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Richard HJJanuary 28th 2014.

Swinging Cats?

Charlie ButterworthJanuary 28th 2014.

Pussy Galore

AnonymousJanuary 28th 2014.

Ironically, curiosity killed the cat...and probably caused you to read this article too :P

JordieJanuary 28th 2014.

We have had this name now for 8 years so I doubt we will be changing it any time soon sorry. If you check out our website you will see why we came up with the name & I hand on heart can say it is nothing to do with the fact we condone cruelty to kittens or any other animal for that matter :-/ x

Northern KittenJanuary 28th 2014.

As a young, single female member who has attended several London parties and was at the Manchester launch, I would like to assure all cynics that KK is exactly what it says on the tin and in this article. I have met refreshingly charming, interesting, intelligent and stunningly sexy girls and guys at these parties and have had no bad/uncomfortable experiences. Everyone is really friendly and respectful. Jordie and the team work hard to create comfortable, safe and exquisite environments for fantasies to become reality. Yes, everyone is entitled to their opinion and no, it's not for everyone- but that's a large part of its charm. Members only want the open-minded and like-minded there anyway! There's no shame in that kind of exclusivity...nor keeping it from becoming seedy and just another swingers club- which I personally never would have attended. So, the opinion of someone who has been there & done it- don't knock it until you've tried it- if you're lucky enough to be granted permission that is! :P

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DavidJanuary 28th 2014.

It might have been easier to take seriously your comments if you not started with 'As a young ,female member'.This PR buff is about selling the idea of a party with lots of available young women to lots of not so young but more financially stacked men.If that's what men want I suggest they go to any nightclub in Morocco and Thailand.

AnonymousJanuary 29th 2014.

A single female who has actually attended a party- yes, clearly her opinion is irrelevant...?!

Le SighJanuary 28th 2014.

I hope they have significantly improved their selection process for who they consider to be the elite since one of their specially picked guests beat the hell out of his girlfriend on the way home for daring to have sex with another person at their party. www.dailymail.co.uk/…/Killing-Kittens-sex-party-trial-Patrick-Ribbsaeter-tells-jury-Thai-girlfriend-accusation.html…

MotleyJanuary 28th 2014.

‘It’s not the case that everyone has to be a supermodel but if you are ugly you can’t get in.' A quote from the owner of KK in an interview in 2012 - albeit from the daily mail but a quote nonetheless. Glad to see we're not shallow at all... Also from the same interview, the owner stated she doesn't like the word 'swinging' - by definition, this is a swingers club. #justsaying

MotleyJanuary 28th 2014.

Also, 'tubby bus drivers and their tubby wives... seeking sweaty solace'.. How offensive?! Is everyone that enjoys 'normal' swingers clubs tubby and therefore unattractive? People probably go to otherclubs because they're not being aesthetically judged! In all fairness KK has been going for some years so they must be doing something right but an 'elite' club for rich snobs where there appears to be a deficit in men? No thanks.

AnonymousJanuary 28th 2014.

Been to the parties in the past. To call kk homophobic would be laughable-plenty of action of all kinds in my exp. Is it sexist as well because the parties are aimed at the women? (which they absolutely are just fyi...and I speak from experience rather than speculation!) There are clubs solely targeted at gay men, why can't there be clubs for the girls? They need to feel safe which is why single men- straight, bi OR gay aren't allowed. It's their prerogative to let whoever they want into their club. If it's not for you/you don't agree then don't go. It's not hard :)

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DavidJanuary 29th 2014.

Please can you explain to me what threat gay men are to women?.The reason straight women like going to gay clubs is for exactly the opposite reason,that they feel much safer.. You talk about its their prerogative to let who they want in as it a private club.So you don't mind those clubs like golf clubs that excluded people on the grounds of sex or race or religion?.

James YoungJanuary 29th 2014.

Wow, as a country we are still very Victorian prudish aren't we? It's a private club, let them get on with it. There are gay clubs in the village that don't want women or straight people in. So what? Each to their own - especially in a private club. People are so ready to take offence at the slightest non-provocation, to find slight where there is none. As for David I bet he gets up in the morning, looks in the mirror and has a row with his face about the shape of his chin. I won't be going but I wish KK every success.

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DavidJanuary 29th 2014.

Anyone who goes out at night in Manchester at night will see that this country is hardly prudish.There is far more hypocrisy about sex in France were privacy law as are used by the rich and famous to hide very abusive treatment of woman.Where rapists like Roman Polanski can escape deportation just because they are talented film makers.

S LJanuary 29th 2014.

Nobody said that gay men are a threat to women. Single men might be at a sex-themed women's club though- gay or straight, which is why they aren't allowed. There is nothing to say gay men can't attend- but they'd have to attend with a woman and given that WOMEN and female pleasure is the point of this, I'd imagine most probably wouldn't really want to (...?) They just aren't what kk is trying to cater to. It caters to women and has their interests at it's centre before anyone else. A bit like the WI... ok granted, not quite but maybe you see my point. :)

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DavidJanuary 29th 2014.

Why are single men more of a threat?.Was Stuart Hall a single man during the time he was attacking women?.

S LJanuary 29th 2014.

Perhaps bad wording on my part, I meant women could perceive their advances as such. It would be likely to make a large majority of them less comfortable and the whole point of this is that they're comfortable and in control. It would be likely to then turn into a completely different type of party- the type killing kittens are trying to offer an alternative to. Why is it not ok for this to be about females?

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Barry TravisJanuary 30th 2014.

Sorry but anywhere that says "we vet the profiles" to ensure "not just anybody" turns up needs to have a long hard look at themselves. We spend half our time in the media trying to teach people to celebrate all shapes and sizes, and the fact beauty is in the eye of the beholder.....yet here we have a group of people judging others based solely on looks/sex appeal. Each to their own in private, but I'm shocked at the open and jovial way these people are basically saying "no uglies please" and people seem to think its a good idea!?

Barry TravisJanuary 30th 2014.

And I'm ignoring the fact that not allowing men on their own seems to.me to be saying that they can't be trusted to behave ourselves?? Whats to atop a bloke attending with an equally predatory/inappropriate femalr? If its all.about expressing sexuality then surely EVERYONE should be allowrd in regardless of gender, marital status, sexual orientation or age. This sounds more like a bunch of voyeurs organising an orgy to watch but trying to ban the chubbers..... Didn't think I'd be a prudish dinosaur by the age of 32

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LiveAndLetLiveJanuary 31st 2014.

It's a private club. They can do as they please. It's no different to VIP/backstage areas, private gold clubs, Oxbridge, male-only venues in MCR, Bullingdon Club, House of Lords - If the cap fits you're in, if not go and make your own club. Nobody is stopping you.

AnonymousJanuary 31st 2014.

It's not about discriminating against men. It's about catering TO women. There is a difference.

DavidJanuary 31st 2014.

It's blatant discrimination.its blatant discrimination having different admission prices.The argument that it does not matter because its a private club and they can do what they like is bollocks.Nobody would accept any private club in Manchester turning away people because they were black or because they were Jewish.in this day and age there should be no place for any gender discrimination either.

AnonymousFebruary 1st 2014.

Men are not a disadvantaged, unrepresented minority. We don't need protection from 'discrimination'. Get a grip.

AnonymousFebruary 1st 2014.

Bloody hell. Someone had better have a strong word with the Girl Guides about their admissions policies by that reckoning then...

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DavidFebruary 2nd 2014.

Girls these days are allowed to join both Cubs and Scouts.But boys are not allowed to join Girl Guides. At one time discrimination could be justified in favour of women in women only organisations when so many clubs and organisations were male only such as working mens clubs and sports organisations.But in this day and age when most of these barriers to female entry have been removed it seems wrong for women to be able to bar men from private clubs.Discrimination is wrong always.

AnonymousFebruary 2nd 2014.

Men are not barred from this club. They are able to attend if they are with a woman. You are either being deliberately thick or are bitter about the obvious fact that you would never be able to convince any sane woman to accompany you.

Jez HuttonFebruary 2nd 2014.

I think David's preoccupation with this issue is odd. Leave it lad.

KarenFebruary 6th 2014.

David, you seem to want to make the argument all about how unfair this is on men. What the article actually said was a price for a single woman attending in her own (it is quite clear this event is primarily for women) and then a charge for a couple. Where does it say this is about charging more for a guy to attend with a women? This charge is for two people attending, can you take your blinkers off and recognize this charge would be applied to two females attending?

FredericaApril 25th 2014.

Despite most of the comments here, all I will say is that I cannot wait to go ! Have been waiting for something like this - classy, raunchy, sexy and exciting - for ears ! I've been wanting something like to happen/open ever since I saw a scene in "Eyes Wide Shut". As for you David, if you want to go with someone, look me up and go with me. I think you're in need of a right ole good shag my luvly !!

Clive AshtonJune 4th 2014.

Parties.... full of beautiful people...... BUT.... you can keep your mask on...... mmmmmmm.... wonder if this party is full of mask wearers.... lol.... and furthermore in my poshest voice.... The Missus and I.... would like two tickets please.... and I think we had better keep our balaclava's ON. Beautiful people indeed.

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